BEIJING (TIP): Don’t get mad, get your opponent to surrender voluntarily: when Mrs Wang discovered her husband had been cheating on her for several years, she called in an elite team of Chinese “mistress hunters”.
Rather than seek a divorce — which could have hit her social and financial standing — she hired a specialist to earn the other woman’s trust, and then persuaded her to end the extra-marital relationship.
It was a longstanding affair, but once the mistress hunters were called in, it was over within two months.
Wang said she paid between 400,000 and 500,000 yuan ($60,000-$75,000) for the service.
“I think it was worth it, I’m satisfied,” she added. So much so, she is now thinking of becoming a hunter herself.
“That way I can help women protect their families and their rights,” she explained. The company Wang used, Weiqing — or “protector of feelings” — has 59 offices across the country, and offers free legal advice and lectures.
Its founder Shu Xin said he has 300 agents at his command.
“My goal is to prevent divorces,” he told AFP at his upmarket Beijing headquarters. “Every year we save some 5,000 couples.”
The mistress hunters are mostly women and are all psychology, sociology or law graduates.
They spend three years learning the ropes before being sent out into the field, where they pose as neighbours, cleaners or even babysitters.
Ming Li, 47, has been doing the job for three years. “I’m older than these mistresses, in general, so they listen to me,” she said.
“If the mistress goes to a park, to the supermarket or to work, I’ll happen to meet her. And even if she is a stay-at-home sort of person, I can claim I’ve got a leak in my apartment and ask for her help,” she told AFP. “We always find a way to initiate contact. “One time, I pretended to be a fortune teller, and the mistress asked me to tell hers. Obviously, I already knew all about her from the wife, so it was easy to leave her dumbfounded and exhort her to leave the husband. It was one of our most quickly resolved cases.”
Chinese divorce rates have surged from 1.59 per 1,000 people in 2007 to 2.67 in 2014, according to the most recently available civil affairs ministry figures — far higher than in Europe, with France at 1.9 and Italy at just 0.9.
In Beijing, official statistics show 73,000 couples divorced in 2015 — almost three times the number nine years previously.
“The reasons? The liberalisation of morals, tensions related to differences between the husband’s and the wife’s income, incompatible personalities,” said Zhu Ruilei, a divorce attorney at Beijing-based law firm Yingke. “But also the desire to pursue personal dreams is stronger than it used it be.”
According to a study by dating site Baihe.com, at least one party has been unfaithful in half of Chinese first marriages. (AFP)